Reflections

On Thursday April 23 Randy's uncle passed away. He wasn't a christian when we last spoke, but I believe we have until our last breath that inward desire to know God, so who knows we may see him again one day.

When Randy and I were getting to know one another many years ago, I found out that his uncle and my uncles exwife had married each other. What a hoot that was... can you imagine! My uncles wife had left him many years before with someone that they used to "party" with, and to find out that my used to be Aunt was now my once again Aunt gave me a big chuckle!

We have visited once in a while over the years, the distance between us in miles and lifestyles made it a little more difficult to get together. So I must say we did not know one another very well. But we always had lots of laughs when we did get together!

Randy and I have been married over 30 years and one of the regrets I have is that we were so isolated from our families! No one ever wanted to make the "long trip" here and when our kids were young we would usually go see my Mom or Randy's Mom and Dad. After our parents passed away, it seemed that our tie to the other family members was broken and we just didn't seem to have that same connection.

I think that some family members took the opinion that I was the one who led Randy down a garden path to a road of religiousty, and they were very upset about that! He has one Aunt who was the family favorite, including mine, who won't even speak to me anymore because she felt I was taking all his time from the family! Hmm family dynamics, aren't they interesting.

Oh well, if I could do it over again, I would try to keep the ties of communication open more with family. Once they leave this world behind we never have another chance to reconcile our differences and misunderstandings! The heritage of our past is lost to those we leave behind.

Take a moment today, call a family member you haven't talked to in a while and let them know that they are important in your life! You may not get another chance!